Women dating nice guys
I couldn't believe this slightly older, charming, and successful guy was giving me -- an awkward young girl who hadn't quite figured out the right shade of foundation -- the time of day. Big equivalent basically helped me implode into an even bigger self-loathing mess over a couple years; constantly comparing myself to the other women he wouldn't stop chasing. My overall quality of life soared while I dated the good guy. But at the end of the day, a good guy will always be there for you and want what's best for you.It took a long time, but I eventually realized opposite effect. It's impossible to be upfront and honest with someone who's being cryptic and weird. You just get shut down so many times, you start to edit what you're saying. I'm a typical 20-something juggling a gym membership, career networking, hanging out with friends, family, and, OK, I admit it -- a crippling wanderlust and over-the-top addiction to Netflix-and-chilling.I didn't feel that I should go out of my way to be nice because I liked being nice. There are some women who want the nice guy because they understand that nice means good and not nice means bad. They aren't very open, keeping mostly to themselves – that's mysterious.More than that, I thought that's what women wanted: men who were nice. However, most women seem to have the concepts confused. They distance themselves and give the cold shoulder whenever they don't want something from you; it makes her ego crazy – why doesn't he want her? If he just got to know her better, he would surely fall for her. Not because she's not lovable but because he isn't loving.Participants in studies interpret "nice guy" to mean different things.In their qualitative analysis, Herold and Milhausen found that women associate different qualities with the "nice guy" label: "Some women offered flattering interpretations of the 'nice guy', characterizing him as committed, caring, and respectful of women.
If being a bad boy gets you laid while being a nice guy gets you either ignored or abused, then guess which type most men choose to be. But only until he realized that the girl had absolutely no interest in him.When you put it this way, it's difficult to understand why it is that women go for these kinds of guys.However, the role the actions that result from such personality traits play on the psyches of women is undeniable.No matter what a men's website tells you, there will be no sex after an insult. Basically, De Angelo is a less is more kind of a guy.
We're going to meet halfway and applaud them for trying to help men understand women. It all begins with an e-mail from an earnest recently divorced guy who says he's having a hard time dating because he's "too nice." "I have always been the nice guy," he says. Less compliments, less old school chivalry, less consideration, less of anything nice basically. Like most men, I learned rather quickly that being that nice guy wasn't the best of decisions. Then all of a sudden logic swarms back into reality and bad, once again, means bad.